I got down on one knee and said, ‘Seven years ago, we made a wish we’d be together forever. Today, I want to make that wish finally come true. I love you, Becka. Will you marry me?’ We then had a day of beach hopping and champagne and a couple’s massage on the roof terrace. We didn’t want anything fussy or too colourful for our wedding. We love simple, chic and rustic looks. Our venue was a 19th-century finca at the foot of the Sierra de Tramontana mountains, surrounded by almond, carob and olive trees.
Becka — We had lots of mutual friends but our paths hadn’t crossed. It was September 2014 and I was on holiday in Ibiza with a mutual best friend. Kadea flew over to surprise him. I remember her coming into the hotel and thinking how beautiful she was. I’d never been in a relationship with a woman so didn’t read too much into it. Fast forward a few hours (and a few tequilas), and we shared our first kiss on the dancefloor.
She came down to London a few times after that and we quickly became inseparable. I was a little scared at this venture into a same-sex relationship but Kadea is my best friend and made me feel safe and secure. I actually planned wedding proposals three times, but thanks to Covid and other issues, I finally proposed at a country retreat in Norfolk. My parents, who live locally, decorated the cabins with fairy lights, cosy throws and candles.
We went for a walk and ended up at the cabin at dusk overlooking the lake. As she opened the door, she gasped. It was like a magical winter wonderland inside. I poured us mulled wine, we sat by the fire and listened to our favourite songs. When ‘our song’ Des’ree’s ‘Kissing You’ came on (our first dance), Kadea suggested we dance. I dropped to one knee, and we both burst out laughing, then cried and finally she said yes.
PHOTOGRAPHY: Agnes Black for Benjamin Wheeler, @benjaminwheeler / LOCATION: Manchester Registry Office / FLORIST: David Wayman,@flowersdavidwayman / BECKA’S JUMPSUIT: Nomi Fame, @nomifame / BECKA’S SHOES: Dune London / BECKA’S PEARL BAG & JACKET: Etsy Boutique etsy.com, @etsy / BECKA’S EARRINGS: Missoma, @missomalondon / KADEA’S SUIT: Zara, @zara / KADEA’S SHOES: Office, @officeshoes / KADEA’S EARRINGS: Missoma, @missomalondon
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